Husbands, Date Your Wives

This weekend my wife and I had our first date in what seemed like ages. Probably because it has been.

Saturday’s date was a big, fancy one, too. An evening out at The Keg (steak = win), followed by browsing at the bookstore and a tea at Starbucks.

For Emily, it was awesome to have time to just be grown ups without having to worry about doling out fishy crackers and wiping bums and noses. For me, it was fantastic to spend time talking with Emily about things that didn’t involve the contents of a diaper, something that the kids did and to focus on making Emily feel special.

(I think I succeeded, right Emily?)

Ever since our first daughter was born, we’ve struggled to get into a consistent habit of going out for a date. And we’re not the only ones. In the parenting course we’re a part of, the subject comes up frequently. As our course facilitators have pointed out (as have the resources), a healthy marriage is foundational to raising children. And it’s easy to see a consistent pattern in all of our difficulties in making it happen consistently:

  1. It’s hard to find a babysitter
  2. Budgets are tight
  3. Our schedules are crazy right now

And these are all legitimate concerns (I know, because they’re mine, too). But they’re nothing compared to the benefits of a regular date night:

  1. You’re protecting your marriage from moral compromise (i.e. emotional and/or physical adultery)
  2. You get to be reminded why you like each other so much (after all, there had to be something that made you want to spend the rest of your lives together, right?)
  3. Your kids get to see a healthy marriage modelled for them
  4. Your wife gets to feel like a princess

There are tons more, but I think you get the idea.

Husbands, it’s our responsibility to make it a priority to date our wives and make them feel treasured. In fact, we’re commanded in Scripture to sacrificially love our wives and to treat them as prized treasures (cf. Eph. 5:25; Col. 3:9; 1 Pet. 3:7). Dates don’t have to be expensive. And even if it’s not every week, but every two weeks or even once a month, can we commit to making our wives a priority for one night?

Do you and your wife have a date night? If so, what’s been your favorite?

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  • Anonymous

    We actually use the “great date experiment” from northpoint for date ideas. they are free and fantastic. cant recommend them enough.

  • Brian McMillen

    What a great post to kick of a new week with! My wife and I started dating when I was 17. I turned 36 the end of February. We were married in 1999 and life quickly began to get in the way- just the everyday stuff that seems to keep you physically apart (different careers, continuing education, etc). God has been SO amazingly gracious though, even though I have failed and failed.. and failed. I started dating my wife again last month, committing to at least once a month. Our date was a blast! For all my Christian brothers out here, it will do you a world of good to see your wife again in that light. Find a trusty baby sitter (in our case the in-laws) and clean yourself up and make a dinner reservation or put some planning into an evening out. Our Christian wives are God’s daughters and we all know how daddy’s are with their daughters. Love God first without a doubt, but be crazy about his little girl in your life :)

  • Anonymous

    Great Post Aaron.

  • Anonymous

    I think I have to sit down and start doing it, before I get old and hav´nt had date night with my wife.Thank

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  • Anonymous

    My wife and I have been trading of with friends for babysitting duties. That way, we get AT LEAST one date every two weeks. In addition, when visiting either one of our parents, we get a date night in at one of our hometowns, which can be exciting.