This weekend my wife and I had our first date in what seemed like ages. Probably because it has been.
Saturday’s date was a big, fancy one, too. An evening out at The Keg (steak = win), followed by browsing at the bookstore and a tea at Starbucks.
For Emily, it was awesome to have time to just be grown ups without having to worry about doling out fishy crackers and wiping bums and noses. For me, it was fantastic to spend time talking with Emily about things that didn’t involve the contents of a diaper, something that the kids did and to focus on making Emily feel special.
(I think I succeeded, right Emily?)
Ever since our first daughter was born, we’ve struggled to get into a consistent habit of going out for a date. And we’re not the only ones. In the parenting course we’re a part of, the subject comes up frequently. As our course facilitators have pointed out (as have the resources), a healthy marriage is foundational to raising children. And it’s easy to see a consistent pattern in all of our difficulties in making it happen consistently:
- It’s hard to find a babysitter
- Budgets are tight
- Our schedules are crazy right now
And these are all legitimate concerns (I know, because they’re mine, too). But they’re nothing compared to the benefits of a regular date night:
- You’re protecting your marriage from moral compromise (i.e. emotional and/or physical adultery)
- You get to be reminded why you like each other so much (after all, there had to be something that made you want to spend the rest of your lives together, right?)
- Your kids get to see a healthy marriage modelled for them
- Your wife gets to feel like a princess
There are tons more, but I think you get the idea.
Husbands, it’s our responsibility to make it a priority to date our wives and make them feel treasured. In fact, we’re commanded in Scripture to sacrificially love our wives and to treat them as prized treasures (cf. Eph. 5:25; Col. 3:9; 1 Pet. 3:7). Dates don’t have to be expensive. And even if it’s not every week, but every two weeks or even once a month, can we commit to making our wives a priority for one night?
Do you and your wife have a date night? If so, what’s been your favorite?