Paul Maxwell is very helpful here:
The one who has his or her own sexual history faces their own challenges. The twin emotions of dating someone with a sexual history, though, are insecurity and obsession. Insecurity, because you feel exposed and already judged when you feel the weight of your partner’s regret and struggle to process what their sins mean for you. Obsession, because you want to let the past be the past, but only after your own morbidly detailed investigation — and because you stubbornly refuse to be rejected and overlooked for the purity which you’ve guarded so diligently.
“What if I’m not as good in bed as her ex?”
“What if my body isn’t as nice as his ex?”
“What if, when we’re married, he wishes he was with her?”
The reflex reaction of the insecure is to quantify oneself, especially physically: to rush to numbers for security, to resort to inches to feel worthy, to run to the scale to feel loveable.
In today’s society, the surface-level emotional appeal of this argument is understandable. It appeals to our sense of tolerance, liberty, and minding one’s own business. Dig any deeper, though, and the sentiment falls flat. Even without explicit reference to biblical reality, there are good reasons why men should have a say when it comes to public policy on abortion. Here are seven reasons why men have a right to speak out and should not capitulate into silence.
As a professed Christian of only a few years who’d grown up as an unbeliever in an unbelieving home, I was still believing more lies than I could articulate at the time. I didn’t know how to separate biblical wisdom from worldly wisdom, and my worldview had no view at all—it was blinded by inconsistency. Morality was a jumbled mess in my mind. I didn’t know truth from falsehood. I wasn’t even trying to find out.
That being said, one of the recurring problems of our politics which shows up in everything from discussions of gun control to police brutality to race is that Americans have become so isolated from each other that it is very difficult for us to look at each other sympathetically or to assume the best about people. Rather, we tend to naturally adopt the most negative, hostile interpretation of another group’s actions. Trump is capitalizing on that alienation by tapping into this same cynicism as it exists within a group (the white working class) that is widely mistrusted and disdained by everyone else. Responding to this maneuver by displaying your own lack of sympathy for that very group is not going to serve any purpose other than causing Trump’s supporters to become even more entrenched.
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Jesus said, “If you ask anything in my name, I will do it” (John 14:14).
That cannot mean that if we attach “in Jesus name” to any prayer request we are guaranteed to get it — it’s not a magic spell.
Neither can it mean that if we neglect to say “in Jesus name” our prayers will not be answered — no prayer in the Bible contains these specific words.
So what does it mean? We use it often enough at the close of most of our prayers, and yet do we know what we’re saying?
Could a successful writer trade her freedom for that kind of life? Elif doesn’t hold back in describing the appeal of Islam’s strict hierarchy and communal ideal.
Wouldn’t it be great to live in a world where her social value was no longer “irrevocably tied to her sexual value?” Why not give up her career as a journalist, especially since her work had never been the ticket to happiness she expected it to be? She wouldn’t be a free woman, but “what was so great about freedom?”