What parent cannot resonate with the struggle of connecting with the “perfect” person to help with children in your absence. Granted, there are those moments when a pulse and the absence of a criminal record will suffice, but what we truly desire is person who can truly stand in our place … who can love our kids as we do, and be loved by our kids as we are.
Ectogenesis would be one of the most important steps in the “manning” of women. It is important to notice that our culture perceives the “potential” of women largely in terms of their liberation from their nature, rather than in their flourishing within the inherent directionality and order of that nature. Conquering and optimizing humanity—breaking the natural structure of humanity down into tractable and malleable “raw material” for rule and profit—has also all too often been the underlying tendency of state and economy.
I see this in my daughter all the time. The other day she had a group of friends, a flashlight, a cape, and their imagination. They’d only been playing for about five minutes and already formed a club—the Ghost Hunters. About ten minutes into this little charade community rules developed. They were having the time of their lives and plotting out their ideas for world domination….and then the whole thing blew up.
We are community destroyers.
As a childless woman, Mother’s Day can be a painful reminder of what I don’t have, and what I long for. Whether your season of childlessness is temporary or permanent, whether you’ve walked through miscarriages, infertility or barrenness, remember that you’re not alone. One in 10 couples struggle with infertility, and even more have lost precious little ones—either in the womb or outside of it. It can be easy to feel alienated and forgotten on Mother’s Day, because everyone is busy celebrating, and your heart is busy breaking.
Quite a story to tell your group of honored guests as you all recline around the table together. The point is clear and stinging: the way things are now is not the way they will always be. The people who are important now are not the people who will be important later. And those who will eat the greatest banquet of all, at the end of the age, are not the ones you might expect.
So here’s a thought. Give up your hopes of being somebody in life. Instead, just be a nobody.
There is no such thing as digital-only discipleship. It’s all analog, because we are embodied people who long for real life community that goes beyond virtual hangouts. Furthermore, pursuing knowledge apart from relationship can become a vice instead of a virtue, the kind of knowledge that puffs up but does not edify.
A favorite from the archives:
Almost every professing Christians I’ve ever met or read or heard speak somewhere has claimed to have a high view of the Bible. Seriously, regardless of the dividing lines, it’s been rare to ever see someone come right out and say we need to chuck the Bible. Even those who aren’t so sure you can really know what it says usually don’t go that far.
And for them, the problem usually isn’t a high regard for the Bible. Their problem is the baggage we all bring to it. The problem is our presuppositions—the ideas and opinions we bring to the table and read the text in light of, whether we realize we’re doing it or not. And because of our presuppositions, some ask, how can we really know we’re reading the text correctly?